It's hard to find that happy medium when we think of our children. They aren't a different species. We don't have a right of ownership over them, to use and abuse them however we'd like. They are tiny humans developing into adults, and they have the same feelings as each of us. They value being listened to, appreciated, recognized in real ways for their hard work - they celebrate being trusted, and being considered reliable.
At the same time, they don't have the same reasoning abilities as adults. They haven't learned much of what we consider "common sense." As parents, we personally, expect too much too often. It's easy to expect them to do the things we - as adults - wished we would have done as children, but forget we're making those choices based on decades of experience.
I'm not sure what this blog is about today, other than to help me think through this mess. My older son feels disrespected, and in turn, he's showing disrespect.
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